Last week we watched the movie Titanic with Leonardo DiCaprio. It was 100 years ago today that the Titanic sank! In the movie, at the formal dinner, Jack describes the freedom he has in his life and concludes his philosophical monologue with a toast. As he raises his glass of champagne, he says “To Making it Count”.
Each of us has a chance every day, a choice actually, to Make it Count. Our days are busy and the schedule is usually full with work, meetings, the usual chores, bills, and taking care of the kids. But what are we doing each day to Make it Count with our spouse? To Make it Count we need to be intentional and not simply reactionary. We must choose to make it a priority to think about those special things that will make our spouse feel loved and cherished and that they truly are the most important person in our life.
I’d like to address the husbands. All too often we husbands are short on words and many times short on actions. We get caught in the trap of taking for granted things around the house and in our lives. We expect our home to be well cared for, dinner to be ready, the clothes washed. And when things are expected, they are usually not appreciated. It’s time to Make it Count. This week I want you husbands to put into practice three simple steps to make your wife know she is appreciated. I want you to: Write It, to Say It, and finally to Do It.
First of all, take some time and reflect on all the things that you are really thankful for about your wife. Let your mind reflect on even the simplest things that she says or does. It could be something about her kindness, thoughtfulness, or her generosity. Then write her a note expressing three of the things that you really appreciate about her. Give her the note before bedtime and let her know you love her. Your wife will probably love getting a special note from you. Somehow when it’s in writing, it speaks to her heart.
Later this week I want each of you to think of three of your favorite dating memories. And again, before you go to sleep one evening while she’s lying next to you, tell her that you wanted to share your special memories and why those times have made you love her so much. Just hearing you verbalize this to her will warm her heart.
And finally, you need to just Do It. Find those special things that she loves so much and take the time to make her feel cherished. For my wife, a twenty minute foot massage is just about the best thing ever. Maybe it is flowers, accomplishing something on her honey-do list, or a dinner out with you. Better yet, dinner in and you are the cook! Find that unique thing your wife loves and just Do It.
That’s it, guys. Write It, Say It, and Do It. Make it Count this week.