I received a link to an interesting post this week. Marlette has been married 34 years and in celebration she put together a list of 34 Things about Marriage. In the next several blogs, I’ll share some of her thoughts with you. Last time we looked at the number 1 item of Marlette’s list and found that their marriage has the priorities of love and respect clearly in focus.
Here’s her number 2 thought of 34:
We show love in medium ways (there is no small love) – he rubs my feet, folds the bath tissue like we’re in a hotel and he calls me darlin’. I bring him his favorite treats, never run out of peanut butter, and record movies I know he’ll like.
Now we see their marriage is characterized by acts of service. Simply put, they serve one another. He rubs her feet and finds simple things to show he loves her. She in turn makes sure to keep a healthy supply of peanut butter on hand along with his favorite treats. Hmmm, did someone once say that the path to a man’s heart is through his stomach? If only other wives could have it so easy. The key to a happy home and husband is as simple as having enough peanut butter!
The “Happy Marriage Manuals” would all go out of business if they only knew that peanut butter was the answer!
All kidding aside, the point is pretty basic. Find out what is special for your spouse and do it. If a foot rub makes her feel loved and melts her heart, then just do it. Understand why it is so special to her. It makes her feel relaxed and takes away the tension of the day. Make it a regular event. You can do the “quickie” foot rub where you just rub her feet while you sit on the couch and watch a movie. Or you can step up your game and go for the full-on gourmet foot rub with candles, soft music, and scented foot massage cream. Find out what makes your wife feel truly loved and go for it. Serve her in this way.
And for you wives that can melt your husband’s heart with a pantry full of peanut butter, by all means, order the case lot size. But if his thing is having the guys over to watch the game and you can provide all the fixin’s, then just go for it darlin’.
We all get the point. Serve one another. The path to a lasting marriage is to love and serve one another.
Serve one another, humbly in love. Galations 5:13