The Lions, Bees, Bears, and Otters are four temperaments explored in Dr. Sandra Scantling’s book Extraordinary Sex Now. Previously we explored the structured, disciplined Bees and the whimsical, frolicking Otters. Now we’ll take a look at the bold, conquering Lions.
Lions make no apologies for being in charge. They’ve mastered leadership skills and boldly take point on most projects. They are strong, confident, and responsible, prefering to do things themselves, finding security in knowing it will get done right. With all of these positive qualities, Lions can also be lonely, insecure, and concerned about being unlovable. While this seems a contradiction, it’s part of the fabric of the Lion’s temperament. They have a tough, take charge exterior, and an insecure, do you still love me interior.
Lions are quintessential extroverts. They speak candidly, then are confused why you think they’re insensitive. You asked what they thought, and true to the nature of the Lion, they told you while firmly lodging their foot in their mouth. They have high expectations and value conquering and attaining their goals. They are generous and see value in helping the less fortunate.
Here are some other qualities you will often find in the Lion:
- They like being the initiator, the leader
- Generally prefer to lead on their own as opposed to being a co-equal team player
- Quick to anger and let you know their upset, but get over it quickly and move on
- They can be short on patience and frustrated with someone who takes too much time or reflection
- Can be intense, focused, overbearing, and pushy to get things moving
- Appearance is important and they take pride in looking well dressed and groomed
- They can be arrogant, self-serving, and out of touch with the needs of others
If you find that you are married to a Lion:
- Remember they enjoy a challenge. If your relationship is stale, try to engage him by considering together what will move your relationship from a 4 to an 8 or a 9.
- They like to be in control, so challenging their leadership will be unwelcome. Make suggestions not demands.
- Understand that they want to know that they are loved. Beneath the tough exterior is often insecurity.
- They appreciate a forth right approach. Don’t beat around the proverbial bush. Get to the point.
- Be clear when they have hurt your feelings. Lions are not the best mind readers, so you’ll have to come right out and say it. They appreciate the direct approach.
- Lions thrive on verbal affirmations and physical shows of affection.
- Don’t harbor hurts. Get things resolved sooner rather than later.
And some suggestions for you Lions:
- Lions would do well to remember to be more flexible and understanding. Remember that when you reach the goal, you’ll want us with you.
- Temper what you say and how you say it; not everyone desires to hear it like you see it.
Next time we will visit the cave of the stabilizing Bear.