The Lions, Bees, Bears, and Otters are four temperaments explored in Dr. Sandra Scantling’s book Extraordinary Sex Now. Previously we explored the structured, organized, and disciplined Bees. Now we’ll go on a wild ride with the enthusiastic, frolicking, and spontaneous Otters.
There’s no doubt if you’ve married an otter. They will often be heard saying with exuberance,
“Let’s just go do it!.”
Before you know it, you’re off another great adventure to the coast, or a five hour drive to Canada straight up I-5 in the snow. Or you’ll find out that in two hours you’re hosting a party and twenty people are coming for BBQ. “But it’s OK,” you’re told, “Most of them are bringing their own beer!” Well la te da, aren’t you thrilled. They’re bringing their own beer. What do we have to worry about?
Here are a few tell tales signs that you’re an Otter or you’re living with an Otter:
- They are charming, lovable, fun loving, and often very generous
- Neatness is not their strong suit – after all, we can clean up tomorrow
- There is never a dull moment – spontaneity reigns supreme
- They love to make life joyful and take adventures just for the fun of being with you
- They can be creative, imaginative, and great practical jokers
- They like variety. Too much structure confines and restricts them
- Being supportive and accommodating are some of their better qualities
- They can easily spend all they have because money isn’t a primary concern to them
- They are free spirited risk takers
Otters should try to remember these things in order to live in closer harmony with a non-Otter spouse:
- A little structure won’t really hurt you
- Try a little long term planning and set some goals with an action plan
- Hold back on some of your impulses and reflect on choices available to you
- Think through your options keeping in mind other’s feelings – your spouse will thank you
- Remember to balance your need for fun with practical things, like the bills
For those of you blessed with the joy of being married to an Otter:
- Don’t make it your life mission to change your Otter – Learn to love them as they are
- Appreciate that their spontaneity can add passion and excitement to your lives
- Avoid being a nagging parent type reminding your otter of chores and tasks
- Finds ways to get things done together without crushing their otter spirit. Get stuff done and then go have fun. If fun is at the end, you’ll be surprised how fast tasks get done.
- And finally, remember your otter is a kid at heart. Embrace and love their uniqueness.
Thank God for the Otters in our lives. They don’t see boundaries; they see possibilities. They don’t create walls; they envision the wide open expanse. They are full of joy and enthusiasm.
Hopefully, some of that will rub off on all of us.
Next time we’ll take a look at the Lion.