Last time we looked at practical things you can do to check if you are spending more than you are earning. If you are, then you’re going into debt. Your credit card balances are probably going up and you’re not making any progress in paying down debt. Your checking account balance simply goes up and down as you deposit your pay checks and pay your bills; but nothing additional goes into reducing your debt or building savings.
Why does this happen? I feel that the constant drumbeat of easy money makes it convenient for us to get into debt. We don’t have to “buy” the new car; we just get a loan. After all, they make it so easy. The monthly payment will be low enough to fit into what we spend each month. We don’t need to “buy” the new computer; we can just add it to our Best Buy account. How easy is that? We don’t have to save for vacation with family this summer; we can just charge it. It will only make the monthly payment go up by a few dollars. What’s the big deal?
The big deal is we never get to a place where we focus on paying off all of the debt. We simply live with the ever growing balance due until it hits a breaking point. The big deal is increasing debt and increasing payments add enormous stress to our marriage.
– Does all of the stress of money cause fights and arguments?
– Do you fight about adding another bill?
– Do you fight about whether or not to buy something?
– Do you decide to not spend for the kids because you don’t have enough money?
– How often do you fight about money issues in your home?
Or have you reached a point where you just stop fighting because you have given up. It’s hopeless now. You are getting further into debt and no matter what you say, it isn’t going to stop.
It’s interesting to note here that fighting over money is a problem for those who don’t have enough income to support their expenses and for those who have enough for all their expenses but fight over how to spend their excess income. Fighting and arguing over money can happen on both sides of the balance sheet. It is a problem that can exist for those who have little and those who have much.
In either case, honest and open communication about needs and expectations is necessary. We must discuss finances and what we need to do to solve our impasse.
More next time on how to resolve problems when we don’t have enough and how to handle problems when we have enough but we fight anyway…